There is a thin line between joy and pain. The reason we feel so much pain at times is because the things that once brought us immense joy have left our lives, causing hurt, sorrow or shame.

We don’t really like to talk about the things that hurt us. We’re embarrassed or maybe we’re still hurting from those things.

If we begin to process our pain, I mean really pay attention to it, we can use it to our advantage. Pain is a language. It tells us that we need to go in a different direction. Pain can be a blessing.

On this blog, I’m sharing some of my personal memories of pain, shame and embarrassment. Hopefully they help you in some way. Maybe they’ll help you feel less embarrassed about the things you’ve gone through, maybe you’ll feel inspired, or maybe you’ll have the simple pleasure of knowing someone else has experienced some of the same heartbreaks that you have.

If there’s anything else you’d like to know, please feel free to email me: sgrahamhunt@gmail.com.


Stacy has a bachelor’s degree in journalism from Southern Connecticut State University and a master’s degree in journalism from Quinnipiac University. She is also an alumna of Florida Agricultural & Mechanical University.

She worked as a multimedia reporter for the Record-Journal, and as a reporter, columnist and blogger for the News-Times and the Connecticut Post. During her time as a reporter, she received a national award from the National Association of Black Journalists (NABJ) and another reporting award from the Connecticut Society of Professional Journalists.

Stacy has also contributed articles to Black Enterprise and Outreach magazines.

For the last few years, Stacy has been working as a public relations consultant for small businesses and government organizations throughout Connecticut and New York.

In May 2016, Stacy created this blog, Processing Pain, after a nagging feeling in her spirit to share her most embarrassing and painful moments. As a result of the blog, she has created a journaling workshop to help others process their own painful pasts.

In April 2017, Stacy released her book, “Processing Pain,” a compilation of the stories she shared on her social media pages and blog.